When Yeshua had finished talking about these things, he left the Galil (Galilee) and traveled down the east side of the Yarden (Jordan) River until he passed the border of Y’hudah (Judea). 2 Great crowds followed him, and he healed them there.
3 Some P’rushim (Pharisees) came and tried to trap him by asking, “Is it permitted for a man to divorce his wife on any ground whatever?” 4 He replied, “Haven’t you read that at the beginning the Creator made them male and female, 5 and that he said, ‘For this reason a man should leave his father and mother and be united with his wife, and the two are to become one flesh’? 6 Thus they are no longer two, but one. So then, no one should split apart what God has joined together.”
7 They said to him, “Then why did Moshe give the commandment that a man should hand his wife a get and divorce her?” 8 He answered, “Moshe allowed you to divorce your wives because your hearts are so hardened. But this is not how it was at the beginning. 9 Now what I say to you is that whoever divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery!”
10 The talmidim (disciples/students) said to him, “If that is how things are between husband and wife, it would be better not to marry!” 11 He said to them, “Not everyone grasps this teaching, only those for whom it is meant. 12 For there are different reasons why men do not marry — some because they were born without the desire, some because they have been castrated, and some because they have renounced marriage for the sake of the Kingdom of Heaven. Whoever can grasp this, let him do so.”
Divorce... not a word anyone wants to hear or experience. Unfortunately, it happens.
God made male and female (Genesis 1:27, 5:2). He said they are to leave father and mother and be united, and become one flesh (Genesis 2:24). Both of these desires of God were given in Genesis when He created man and woman. His plan is for man and woman to join together.
The Pharisees asked, "Then why did Moses give the commandment that a man should hand his wife a get and divorce her?" It is written a little different in the NIV version. “Why then,” they asked, “did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?” This version makes it sound like Moses commanded the man to do this. Let's read it from Deuteronomy 24:1, 3:
“Suppose a man marries a woman and consummates the marriage but later finds her displeasing, because he has found her offensive in some respect. He writes her a divorce document, gives it to her and sends her away from his house.
but the second husband dislikes her and writes her aget, gives it to her and sends her away from his house; or the second husband whom she married dies.
(What is a "get?" It is a Jewish document, consented by both parties, to allow for a divorce.)
These verses become quite controversial. Many different thoughts and opinions about how and why a divorce should be granted. I think God allowed for it because He knew certain situations it probably should be granted. It is not God's intent.
I don't want to get into reasons why, or how, divorces should be granted. I would say that one should prayerfully seek God in each situation and hear from HIM as to what to do. What I do know is, God does not wish for this to happen, but He will walk everyone through each and every situation.
The final words Jesus said were, "Whoever can grasp this, let him do so." I think this means Jesus knew that it is a tough subject. It is not easy to "grasp" It means seeking the Lord and letting Him be the guide. His heart should be heard. That sometimes takes time. Sometimes it means letting go of selfishness. Sometimes it means making tough decisions.
Signing documents is always something that should be done with caution. It should never be done in haste. One must understand all that any document entails and the consequences that could occur. One must prayerfully address the situation and never proceed hurriedly.
All we can do is TRUST that He will lead and guide. If anyone who is facing this situation, or anyone who has a friend facing this, may God give wisdom and clarity with His heart. May union happen that will bring honor and glory to His name.
Love and blessings,
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